I (33F) married my husband (35M) after being together for four years. Just after the wedding we experienced a series of tragedies, my mother died unexpectedly and I just fell apart, there was so much pressure dealing with my fathers grief and trying to manage my siblings grief as well.
To make matters worse I was also dealing with going through IVF at the same time, there was just so much sadness as I could never seem to maintain a pregnancy past the first trimester.
Eventually my husband and I stopped communicating effectively and although we were still talking a lot every day I was so lonely.
One day out of the blue my husband told me he didn’t love me anymore and we needed to separate. Little did I know that just a year after we got married he started sleeping with a girl (25F) he met through his job.
A couple of days later I caught him out and he confessed everything to me. He told me he loved her and that I wasn’t exciting, that he couldn’t stand all the sadness in the house anymore. I was absolutely crushed.
It took all my strength but I moved out immediately, tried to start again, even started dating.
Within days of being separated he became desperate, tried everything to win me back, cut off the AP, couples counselling, massive declarations of love, so so many promises of what our lives could be.
He convinced me it was all a mistake born from grief and loneliness and suffering, that the affair had only lasted a few months. (The AP knew all about me and knew he was married).
I took him back for a short time, told him I would give him a proper chance for three months. During this time i changed contraceptives and I fell pregnant.
I couldn’t believe it, I waited to miscarry but my beautiful baby hung in there. I gave birth to the most perfect little boy 9 months later and decided to really give my marriage another chance.
Fast forward three years from the affair, I have a beautiful 18month old son. My husband has done everything he promised and more to try and fix our marriage. I decide to finally get some weird symptoms checked out that stayed after my son was born…they strongly suspect I may have cervical cancer.