The man (25m) I’m (27f) seeing is bad in bed. How do I tell him what I need without hurting him?
We’ve been exclusive for a month and we have been sleeping together for around the same time. He’s had more partners than me but I wouldn’t say I’m inexperienced.
I’ve had partners before that absolutely blew my mind with how amazing in bed they are. So now, I can’t help but compare.
With this man I’m seeing, I’m starting to think I love him but there are times I feel like he just doesn’t care about me.
There’s barely any foreplay. He gets tired being on top very quickly which I don’t mind because I love being on top. It’s usually the fastest way I finish but due to the lack of foreplay it’s been taking longer than usual.
Yesterday, I was almost near but he stopped me to change positions to doggy. I was so frustrated. I don’t even like that position because I can’t see him.
I’ve tried guiding him on how to pleasure me or finger me but he says he doesn’t have the strength to do so.
When I asked him to finger me a certain way, he said he couldn’t because he didn’t have the strength. He says he doesn’t usually eat a girl out unless they ask. Is this normal?
I like him a lot but this is making me feel like he doesn’t care about me and honestly makes me cry. I feel like if I ask him to do more he’ll feel pressured. I already feel insecure about a lot of things in our relationship and this just adds to it.
He doesn’t seem to care that I’m not satisfied and it hurts.
I would like to keep seeing him but feeling connected through intimacy is really important to me. I want to communicate this to him without sounding hostile. Any help in this would be much appreciated.