WOMAN’S PARENTS ARE LONG GONE, FRIENDS TELL HER THEY WON’T DATE SOMEONE LIKE HER

Is my value as a partner lowered because I “don’t have” parents

So this incident came about a few months ago but has been on my mind since then.

I was speaking to a group of friends and the topic of parents of partners came about, I’m not sure how but at some point someone mentioned they wouldn’t date someone with no family bonds (etc cut off family, complicated family, no parents)

This struck a nerve because I guess you could say I fall into this category. My dad is deceased since I was young and my mum is well, complicated. we don’t acknowledge each other and to put it simply our relationship is unsalvageable.

The part that shocked me greatly was when many of the other friends actually agreed. *in their defence they have no idea about my family because I’ve never shared.

I just am wondering if majority of Singaporeans from healthy families agree and what are the reasons? Is it because I might not be filial or complicated as a partner?

** not sure if this changes anything but I am a woman which I guess typically = motherhood = healthy family mindset which maybe turns off guys when they find out I probably don’t have a ideal wifey backstory

Netizens’ comments

1. I know of people who will love to have you as a partner, because they don’t have to deal with the “in-laws”, and don’t have to spend time worrying about how to please them, the politics of it, etc etc and that your focus will be on your partner/spouse and not have to deal with other potential family related situations.
   There’s also things like legacy, inheritance (i.e. Nobody to split it with, no complicated family drama, etc)
   Different people look at things differently so don’t be too bothered by it.
2. I know of people who actually stated that they much prefer partners without family ties cos it is less complicated that way.
3. No, but I can see how their thinking comes about. They think no family ties/bad relationship with family means the person has a lot of baggage.
   Personally, I wouldn’t judge a person’s character based on their relationship with their parents. Some people have gone through domestic abuse, violence, etc. Or, alternatively, maybe their parents have passed or abandoned their family. Could be a million different complex reasons, it’s unfair to judge.