I am angry that my girlfriend has a curfew. It’s hard to plan anything spontaneous with her, like a late dinner or movie date, because I have to check the calendar to see if is a holiday or not.
Her parents are traditional and they won’t let her stay out late without a valid excuse.
It’s frustrating, especially because we’re both in our late 20s. We’re adults, and it feels like we’re being treated like children. We’ve talked about it, but her parents won’t budge. She loves them and respects their wishes, so she’s stuck with their rules.
She has another rule as she is so shy, we only can go to bed and “do it” when it’s dark.
I understand that her parents want to make sure she’s safe and that she’s making good decisions. But at the same time, it’s 2023 and we’re adults. We should be able to make our own decisions about our lives. We’ve both worked hard to get to where we are, and we deserve to be treated like adults.
It also makes it difficult to be intimate with her. Her curfew means she has to leave early, and it’s hard to get in the mood when we’re constantly looking at the clock.
We both know that we’re running out of time, so it takes away from the moment.
I’ve tried to talk to her parents about it, but they’re not interested in changing their rules. They’re not interested in hearing our side of the story, and they don’t see why their daughter should be allowed to stay out late.
At the same time, I don’t want to push too hard and risk alienating them. I want to maintain a good relationship with them, so I’m trying to be respectful and understanding. We’ve compromised on a few things, like her being allowed to stay out later on certain weekends. But it’s still not enough.
I love my girlfriend, and I want her to be happy. I want her to be able to make her own decisions and to be free to do what she wants. But her parents’ rules make it difficult for us to do that.
So until they’re willing to make a change, I’ll just have to stay angry and frustrated.