Me (F25) got ghosted again by (M30) why does this keep happening? This has happened multiple times in my life with different guys – so idk if it’s a guy thing or a me issue.
It usually goes like I’ll be seeing a guy casually for a few moths, nothing serious we will just be having fun and sleeping with each other and then after a while they will ghost me when I think in my head things were going good/no issues. Why is this?
It happened to me recently the guy came to my place, we went for drinks, slept together I texted him the next day and then ghosted – we had been hanging out for months – it’s kinda disappointing/sad honestly.
Why is the reason guys will do this after months of seeing each other?
- First time? Maybe he finally got what he wanted, didn’t think you were a match, or got scared of having to commit to something.
Who knows but it happens and very common, you’re not the only one. Keep picking yourself up and move onto the next while setting firmer boundaries and express what you want from them.
- (OP) No we slept with each other a few times!
- If that is your experience, you are the common denominator. I don’t want to be mean, but it’s not a male thing. It’s something that the men you pick have in common.
If you’re honest with yourself, you probably saw some red flags and chose to ignore them because they have other qualities you value more. Might be good to evaluate how you go about selecting a partner. Wish you the best.
- It’s very common, men usually “wham, bang, thank you ma’am” and disappear once they manage to get into your pants.
You mentioned in another comment that you slept together with him a few more times, so possibly he got tired of you and wanted another woman.