Does anyone else in SG feel that it’s impossible to talk to their parent/s about their problems?
I mean, the ideal situation (which you hear about and see in fiction) is that the child can go to their parent/s and talk to them about their problems right? Like trouble at school or medical issues, things like that?
In my experience, I find its impossible to do that because my mother will immediately start shouting about how i am causing her problems, i am very troublesome, why i cant be like other children who aced their exams, i am talking nonsense, i have been corrupted by ang mohs, etc…
I have noticed that a recurring theme is if i talk to her about something, and she feels it is inconveniencing her, she will start shouting. She doesnt seem to care if i am suffering. E.G. I tried telling her that i get eye strain and headaches from the newly installed ceiling lights, and she just did not care and just kept shouting that i was causing trouble for her.
Then she complains that i do not tell her anything and keep everything to myself, and when i point out what happens when i DO tell her things, she starts trying to guilt trip me by saying that she put so much effort into taking care of me, how can i say something like that, etc.
She also claims its normal for her to do that and starts talking about how she was beaten as a child by her mother and how other kids were beaten by their parents…
Netizens’ comments
Haha oh please.
I’m in my 30s and caught some stupid flu or dkwhat inflammation (went to doc, paid 30bucks for some old angmoh to tell me “oei don’t freak out la chill, here’s some meds” – 60bucks in total when I could have spent half the money only, had I just DIY to ownself buy meds)
My boomer mother: why we going holiday then u sick
wtf this is exactly why I don’t even dare to show I’m sick in the slightest or acknowledge the possible reality of it, much less let it show to people around me. Like u know sometimes can’t hide one, if your nose is blocked/runny or your voice is raspy, it will ownself show even if u dw to let it slip.
Even as an adult today, I feel that my parents care for me not out of love, but to minimise inconveniences to them – although they’ll never ever ever ever admit it.