I (18M) started dating and have been sleeping with an older woman (42F) lately. My best friend (18F) says I’m being taken advantage of but I don’t feel like I am?
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It’s honestly just been an amazing experience. Like I still can’t believe it’s happening. I feel like the only downside is she might be setting the bar too high for all my future intimate experiences.
But my friend insists that she is a predator even though I’m legally an adult and she’s only ever known me as an adult.
I don’t know, I kind of just am enjoying myself but my friend is worried about me. Which I find kind of funny because I’m a 1.9m tall dude who is quite huge, I don’t see 1.6m tall, 40 year old women as threats.
Do you think she is overreacting here?
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Netizens’ comments
- You are an “adult” but 18 is still very young mentally and emotionally, and your libido is pretty much starting it’s peak. All to say you’re at the most susceptible time in your life to be blinded by your own lust. She may be taking advantage, she may not be.
But tread carefully, be mindful of your emotions and any attachments that might arise and understand that what you’re experiencing here may not translate into future relationships. - On the flipside, if I’m being honest, 18/42 isn’t a great look and you being a legal adult doesn’t really mean much. if I were your friend, I’d at least be concerned about the context of your relationship with this person.
- I think the things you should consider are : do you feel completely comfortable with the situation, does she have a history of dating people with a large age gap and what has happened with those previous relationships, and are you both looking for the same thing (just having fun and exploring, or commitment) Also do you feel the need to keep the relationship secret from those close to you?
- If the genders were swapped this would be a very different comment section. That’s pretty concerning.