Is it weird that I’m a 21 year old man and I still sleep in the bed with my mom sometimes?
Please don’t be nasty and call this “incest” I won’t even let my mom kiss me on the lips. But we live together and it is comforting to have someone next to you and I really worry that if she passes away.. she wouldn’t know how much I love her and how much she means to me. I’d be really lost without my mom in this world and I honestly don’t know if I could even endure it.
I think a big reason I haven’t left this part of me behind is because I’m kinda “stunted” I would say. Not to mention, my mom is like my only friend and the only person I fully trust on the earth.
My big brother loves my mom just as much as I do, but he’s had better luck in life and finds it weird. He also thinks it’s weird that we hold hands, but that’s just for us to do our 3 squeeze thing (I love you) Am I doing something wrong? Honest opinions are appreciated.
Edit – when I say that my brother has better luck in life I meant mostly mentally. I have high functioning autism and I have a lot of mental health issues. He does not struggle with these things and I would never resent him because he got the better end of the stick. Wasn’t trying to undermine how he got to where he is in life.
- I’m a girl & I’ve slept in my mom’s bed a few times as an adult. Like after a bad breakup or something similar.
I would suggest talking to a therapist though & gaining some coping mechanicism/ life skills to help you feel more independent & maybe even be independent. It’s just part of life & it’s necessary for growth.
- I’m going to say this kindly – you and your fam need to consult some therapists. There’s a lot going on here, a lot to unpack.
Even if you are stunted, your mum should be doing what a mother does and helping you work through that in a healthy way. The way y’all are doing things is really *not* healthy, my dude.
Yeah its weird. You are basically your moms son-band. You sound like you emotionally married to your mom.
Yeah it’s super icky and weird and until you probably going to stay single cause no woman will want to be the third wheel in that relationship.