I am 30 years. I have had no girlfriends ever. I have never even hold a girls hand.
I was14 when I started liking girls, maybe even get a girlfriend. That was 16 years ago. I don’t even know where I went wrong.
It’s not that I have not tried, but nothing has worked out. I have tried to be just friends to girls as well but even that has ended up in disrespect.
I emotionally crave to hold someone’s hand, hug them, maybe even kiss. I am an old fashion mind person, I don’t have the guts to do or say this to any of my guy friend.
I have tried tinder, asking colleagues out, trying to bond giving it time. I am an introvert but I have even tried to talk to strangers, it just makes me feel more sad later.
I dream of listening and talking to people for a long time. I am okay with platonic relationships, it’s that I feel not needed as I am. I feel I don’t matter to anyone.
- I would not bother with Tinder because it sounds like you’re looking for more of a relationship-type deal. Tinder is mostly people seeking hookups or people cheating on their gfs/bfs pretending to be single. It can still happen though. My cousin was a huge wallflower and she didn’t meet the guy who is not only her husband but the only dude she’s ever been with til she was 31.
- You are worth while and somebody is going to love you in that way someday I am sure you are very loved.
- I think if your guy friends make you feel as if you can’t speak to them about this then they aren’t very good friends. If you truly believe they are good then I recommend speaking to them. I think you just really need some validation in your life and validation from friends is a great way to start. As for your remark about “tried being friends but it ended in disrespect” I’m not sure what you mean by this but if you genuinely were being a good person and were disrespected, you need to talk to better women. Not all women are like that. Overall I really recommend talking to friends about this and working on your own self love and reflect on your past relationships.