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31 Y.O WOMAN SAYS SHE’S A “GOOD CATCH” BUT CAN’T FIND A BF CAUSE STANDARDS TOO HIGH

Hey everyone!

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So I just started downloading a dating app back in Nov last year and so far have only gone on two dates with two different ppl. Both didn’t work out but will go into it later on.

The last time I’ve used dating apps was back in 2020 and I don’t rmb the dating scene being this difficult? Maybe it’s always been like this but I just got lucky or, well, unlucky since my last r/s didn’t work out ha.

A little bit of content on my background: I don’t wanna come off as bragging but from feedback from friends and exes, I’m considered to be a good catch in terms of looks + intellect + character.

I’m honestly polite and genuinely nice to people (until they give me a reason not to be). Think of me as the girl who got catfished on a date but still stayed till the end ‘cos I felt bad leaving halfway.

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Over the past ten years or so of getting in and out of r/s, the periods when I was single were shorter than the periods when I was attached.

Since my last r/s I really looked back and reflected on myself and I think my biggest problem back then was that I jumped into r/s after r/s too fast, and also that I might be too trusting of guys in the sense that some ppl tend to show the best/carefully constructed false image of themselves during the first few dates but later on relaxed and revealed how they really are like after we got tgt (or maybe they just got lazy lol).

It could be that I have a bad judgement of character too, idk. So this time I told myself I’m not gonna lower my standards, have patience in dating and getting to know someone really well. Right now this is actually the longest period of time I’ve been single.

So now I’ll go into the two dates I’ve gone on:

Date 1) Dinner + drinks date with a non-local and went on to have dessert + another round of drinks after. Date went well and spanned over like 5 hours.

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He showed a lot of interest in me, mirrored body languages and mild body contact like moving closer to me all that stuff.

He asked me out for a 2nd date following week, I couldn’t make it so I proposed an alternative date and he said he’d lemme know how his following week looks but he never did. So I checked in with him and I got slow ghosted after that lol.

Date 2) Quick dinner + movie date with a local who’s lived overseas and just came back not too long ago. We chatted almost daily for a mth before he asked me out.

I knew it was a bad idea if you don’t meetup after 1-2 weeks max of texting cos you’d tend to form a fantasy/ideal image of the person as time goes on and they’d often not come to meet the expectations when you finally do meet up in person.

But I really didn’t wanna ask a guy out so I waited. Turned out to be a super awkward date with no chemistry.

I’ve since downloaded 2 more dating apps and it’s not looking so good either so I’m feeling quite jaded and honestly afraid I might really end up being alone forever lol.

I always heard that ladies have a better shot at dating or have an abundance of guys to choose from but I’m having a difficult time finding guys I’d like to swipe on whom I have even a little bit of interest in. I’m not sure if it’s cos I’m older so I’m pickier or is the dating scene really bad now?

It’s been a long post but I’d really love to find out and hear any ladies’ (and guys’) dating experiences in SG!

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