A man shared how he is turned off by his girlfriend treating their intimate relations as a form of reward.
Here is the story
My girlfriend treats us getting intimate like its a reward and it’s turning me off.
I’m nearly 40. As time has gone on intimacy has been less and less important in relationships that I have had.
I would expect that to continue. And while I consider my girlfriend fiercely intelligent she has a warped view of getting intimate.
To me, sleeping together is a fun thing to do with a partner (or partners, whatever…let your freak flag fly).
But she seems to think it is a reward for something impressive I do or something threatened to be withheld during a fight or moment of discord.
I’m not an 18 year old boy who is obsessed with getting laid. I’m a grown man who knows how to handle himself.
I’ve spent the last 30 years dealing with my own raging hormones, you are insane if you think that threatening me or using it as a reward is anything but weird at best.
I almost said this to her recently but bit my tongue because I don’t like to argue. I try to put aside anything that doesn’t really matter and just try to always be a force for good in my girlfriend’s life.
Hence…this post. And in case your logic that I am just bad in bed and intimacy is a chore for her…that is not the case. We both always have fun together and it has been rare we have not both finished satisfied.
Anyway, thank you for reading. It feels good writing this.