I’m a divorcee in my mid-40s and as I’m not looking to settle down (again!) any time soon, I’ve really enjoyed dating younger men recently and having a few FWB who are significantly younger than me.
Younger men are fun-loving, adorable to talk to, enthusiastic in bed and eager to please, and so curious about the world.
I find (most of) them really refreshing to spend time with. Such a contrast to the grumpy, jaded men my age, who only talk about their work, complain about their ex, or suffer from weaponised incompetence (despite their age).
Of course, it’s not all perfect. Dating younger men also means weeding out boys with mummy issues and those looking for sugar mummies. But, overall, there’s been more pros than cons in my experience.
Because many people seem to be getting the wrong idea about my experiences and my opinions, let me emphasise again that I’m NOT interested in a long-term relationship (my current focus is on my kids, my elderly parents, and my career, in that order).
So, meeting younger men, being their friend, and hopefully progressing on to being FWBs is ideal for me at the present.
And yes, I do date both younger men as well as men my own age and older. However, I have come to find that I enjoy the company of younger men the most.
In my opinion, there’s also nothing wrong with seeking a sugar mummy, if that is your wish. But it’s just not something I’m interested in being.
Netizens’ comments
- They do make good FWBs and are a joy to talk to, but being at different stages of life meant that a relationship would have been more work than I wanted. I adore their energy and enthusiasm, one in particular was very much puppy energy. Very affectionate but wanted more than I could give despite clearly stated boundaries prior to engaging.
- My partner is only two years younger so it didn’t make much difference to me. When we met he was mid 20s and probably didn’t have much relationship experience. He did start out very much a mummy’s boy who stayed home when mommy got angry and didn’t know how to clean up a spilled drink.
Boy I’m glad he grew and now he’s very independent, and able to establish boundaries with his parents.
I’ve also dated a guy 5 years younger briefly (before meeting my current partner) fresh out of army. It’s horrible. All he could talk about was army, to which I had zero interest.
I think the older you get the less significant the age gap is, unless you’re talking about like 10 or 20 years