I am 42 years old and a virgin.
Yep, I’ve made it 42 years and no one has stolen my virginity from me. Not to say I can’t talk to women or am really that shy.
I have a good job, go to the gym, fit enough to go on multi-day bike rides. I can talk to women in a professional setting or out in public but the second it turns flirting I shut down immediately.
It’s just my natural reaction and I hate it. Every freaking time, my brain just goes into automatic mode and pushes her away.
Now people my age are finishing up raising kids,. some are becoming grandparents. They’ve been through marriages, divorces, childbirth, temper tantrums, holidays, celebrations, hardships, school events, watching their kids grow into adults while I’ve spent my life on the sideline watching it all from afar.
So yeah women scare the hell out of me and I’m a virgin.
Netizens’ comments
- Have you considered therapy? There’s probably a reason that you push women away and you could work on it with proper help
- Wow, do you have any kind of gut feeling about what makes you shut it down? Reading between the lines of what you said, I’m assuming that you liked some of the women you shut it down with and regret doing it?
- Why are women scary?
I’m a woman and I don’t like to think that I’m scary. - Alcohol is the key. Let’s face it: Half of the population would not exist if the guy and the girl would not have been drunk at the time when they had sex. It lowers things like anxiety and it makes it easier to keep going.
And before i get attacked here: I’m talking about a few drinks, not about becoming an alcoholic. That’s not required. - Dude, are you serious? Get some therapy, like yesterday. You obviously have some deep-seated issues with women and I don’t think you wanna die a virgin.
- You could try putting yourself in situations where you meet others on a regular basis, like joining a dance or cooking class. You won’t necessarily meet the love of your life there, but you will practise interacting with others.
Also, remind yourself that this isn’t a race. You don’t need to have your own kids to have a fulfilling life. You could also be a cool godfather/uncle.