Uncle in a Dilemma.
I am in a dilemma.
Am single (52/m & a super introvert). And I have a very close female business associate (40 & single). We known each other for 16 yrs. Not only the basic “know”, but we are what the youngsters today term as “bff”.
Our r/s, other than work, is platonic.
We shared alot emotionally. Somehow we connect very well. At times we are physical, but no in the sexual way. Things like she will hug & hang on to me if she gets drunk/high coz she knows i will protect her always. She is extremely pleasant looking, in fact an eye candy too & other guys will try to establish physical contact when she gets high on alcohol. So each time this happens, i will send her home (holding hands like a couple) & nothing else more.
I have seen her in several failed r/s & it broke my heart each time i see her getting hurt. In all her r/s, i am also very close to her partner.
Currently, she is going thru another cycle of a failed&shaky r/s. She have been abused emotionally. It was heartbreaking for me to see it.
Now the dilemma comes in.
I have a liking to her..in fact I think it’s love for her. Tbh, i have this feeling for more than 10 yrs. But i just couldn’t bring myself to express in words other than showing concern, protecting her & supporting her everytime when she goes thru a bad phase. I am like always there for her. And she knows I will always be there coz she did told me before recently.
Should i tell her ? And Yes, there is a 12 yr gap.
Feel kind or weird asking here coz during my days, we use to have an “Aunt Agony” column for such advise….lol
Hope i don’t get nasty comments..
Thanks..