Been with my Hubby from r/s to marriage for 10 years with kids and yes after many years of r/s, it can be leading a simple life of just taking care of kids, family and working.Â
I’m standing in a POV in an open-minded state. So my hub started off to be very close with a few female colleagues. They watsapp and even talk alot in work messengers. Initially, it was annoying and insecure that I started to have this thinking if he’s going to stray or had the intention to do so but however, he was devoted to the family and still caring about me despite him talking alot to his female colleague.Â
I then come to a few point of time, started to engage to one of a mummy friend n we talk everyday. We also talk about sensitive things like when how to make babies happily and our daily life encounters. Are we flirting? we are females and imagine, I talk to a guy like this! Then at another point of time, I had common thinking with a guy colleague on work culture and we decided to leave the company. Even after we left, we still talk to each other every other days. He’s interested in TCM and we even shared which acupuncture points can be good to increase s*xual drive after birth. I even know he had s*x while wfh. In texts, it can sound like flirting but in fact, it is actually a way to rant or finding balance in life so when we face work or family, we don’t feel so destress.Â
I don’t have hobby like gardening or sewing so, my only hobby i got is to talk to people and in this pandemic, we hardly meet people. If you spouse has the intention to cheat, here are some hints to lookout for
1. does your spouse want to meet the person who is close with?
2. does your spouse neglect you and your kids/family?
3. does your spouse typed in text that he/she has feelings for the colleague?
if yes to all the above , be prepared for the worst. if not, just leave it as everyone has their own ways to destress nn finding someone they comfort with to talk to. not just circulating around you. i’m just sharing my POV. no bashing pls.