I’m married for almost 11 years, two kids. A few months ago, I went to the dr and found out he had given me a sti.
He watched me suffer in physical and emotional pain during that time. He said he felt rejected by me. It softened my heart towards him because sometimes I can be cold or uninterested. We both wanted to work on it so we started counseling.
Communication was better. I deleted my Instagram but a few days later, something told me to get back on. I got into his page (one of two which was private and I didn’t know existed). I found messages to multiple women starting back in 2018. The majority were casual. A few were “hey beautiful “. One was telling him how she found him on tinder, another one he was meeting up with while they were both working. Something happened at some point(she gave him new experiences).
At least two others, he was talking about taking them out. Another girl, he said he is somewhat married. When I confronted him, he said the same thing as last time… that it was just BS conversation. He said he is sorry for what he did. That he was immature. He just sorry he got caught.
If he had been honest about everything months ago when we started therapy. I have made the decision to leave next year. I want to give my kids this holiday season. Plus I got to figure out the finances. I’m not mad, not really sad. I’m excited about what my future may hold. Our relationship was ok but not what I would want for the rest of my life. Finding out about his lying, cheating made my decision to leave easier. I hate that my kids are going to suffer. But staying with him forever is not an option. I can’t trust him. I’m not trying to play detective forever. Just want a space for myself and my girl to be happy.