I’m 36 and my Ex-husband M37 divorced me after I got diagnosed with cancer. He made it all about him then blamed me for our marriage failing. Got married to a 23-year-old woman who calls me by mocking nicknames
I try to have a good co-parenting relationship, I have a 16-year-old son who lives in both homes.
His 16th birthday was days ago, I bought him a console and sent it to his dad’s house in advance since I was out of town and couldn’t attend the birthday celebration.
2 days later, one day before the birthday, My ex-husband called saying he opened the gift I got for our son, used it and broke it. I was in dismay when he told me and I started arguing with him about paying for it to replace it but he started pleading saying he has no money and asked that I either send another gift (didn’t have to be a console) or just tell our son I didn’t send him a gift.
I told him no way I was going to lie to my son but he kept begging saying he’ll pay me back once he’s able. I ended the call with him then immediately called my son to let him know what his father did to his birthday gift. A huge fight ensued and my ex-husband called me yelling saying I not only ruined our son’s birthday celebration but ruined his relationship with him over a stupid console that he was going to pay for but I was being spiteful trying to one-up him.
My son went to stay at my place with my current husband and hasn’t been speaking to his dad. His dad is blaming me because our son refused to stay and celebrate his birthday thereafter finding out what his dad did.
My ex-husband’s wife berated me in a long text talking about how I caused a scene and used my son as a tool to get back at his daf when I could’ve worked things out like a “mature adult”.
She said she “doesn’t get me” and that there’s something wrong with my personality. she even claimed she would be a better, more mature mom than me and never involve her kids in her fights with her partner.
I was upset by her lecture and felt maybe I mishandled the situation and made a hasty decision.Â