Whenever my 9 years old son gets injured or hurt, I’d normally kiss the injured area as a way to comfort him and make the pain go away, I also use it as source of strength and he certainly sees it this way. I DO NOT kiss the skin directly but after I cover the injured area obviously.
My 35-year-old husband got into an accident and had an injury (wound) on the left part of his chest. He has 0 pain tolerance but he takes medication for it.
The other day I was helping change his wound dressing and clean up the wound, before I could place the new wound dressing he asked me to kiss it. I refused. it just didn’t feel right, his wound was still fresh and there was already antibiotic ointment applied there so I just didn’t want to do it.
He insisted and I kept declining,
He then got mad and said that I do this with my son why not him. I suggested that we just let it go and proceeded to apply the new wound dressing. he stopped me and went on a long vent about how I don’t care about him and that I clearly feel grossed out by him to not want to kiss his wound. I thought that was silly, I told him to let me finish changing the wound dressing but started arguing and had me leave the room. I left and he kept sulking for the rest of the night. he then told our son that mommy doesn’t love daddy and don’t want to kiss his wound so he could get better. I was floored, my son actually came at me for upsetting my husband and just made me feel bad all around.
I kept thinking that I caused this situation and should’ve just done what he wanted me instead of creating this tension in the house.
So what do you think?