My wife is an aspiring influencer. One day she decided to quit her day job to focus on grooming her profile. I support whatever she does as long as she is happy but I am starting to see the negative effects of what she is trying to achieve. She is not happy at all.
She is online 24/7. She is always on her phone and computer and it has come to the point of neglecting our child and me.
She would dress us up for photo takings and spend hours editing and posting and waiting to see the response. She would dress up even when she’s home and would spend hours taking photos.
When we go out she would spend so much time perfecting her shots instead of enjoying the moment with us. Even before we eat she would arrange and snap the table till the food is cold before I can dig in.
She also gets emotional and obsessive in regards to her viewership numbers and likes. She spends a lot of time trying to get collaboration deals and she earns almost nothing from it.
She spends more money to dress up and decorate just for a photo. I would take photos of her and she would make me retake many times and keep correcting me on what she wants.
Sometimes it’s so long till our child is crying for attention. Lucky we have a good helper else I think things would have been worse.
I find she is more stressful now compared to when she still has her day job. When I talked to her about asking her to scale back and think of this as a hobby first instead of forcing it to grow, she argue with me and say I don’t understand her dreams.
She has a friend who has a larger following online and I suspect she is competing with her friend. She is constantly comparing herself to other influencers too and buying similar things just to display in a shot.
How do I talk to her and make her understand this is getting toxic? I just wish she can scale back on the number of hours she is online and spend more family time with us.