I recently turned 18, and I decided to take the opportunity to “explore” and start having an adult life. I downloaded a dating app and met someone who was looking for a fwb as well, and he was insanely attractive. I jumped at the opportunity to be with him, and after hanging out a few times we “did it”. It went great, we both had a good time, it was fine.
A few days later I’m talking to my friend and she sent me a picture of her with her boyfriend. Queue me finding out that her boyfriend was in fact my fwb.
Here’s where I totally screwed up. I didn’t know what to do, so I talked to my fwb and he told me just don’t tell her we were “doing it”. I wasn’t comfortable with that, so I told him I can’t do that. I came up with a plan to tell her, and then she messages me.
He told her EVERYTHING, leading her to be pissed at me for lying to her. I tried to explain myself but she blocked me everywhere.
I wasn’t trying to cause problems, but inevitably I did.
Here are what netizens think:
- The ones being cheated on always blame the third party, never the cheater. They never want to admit their poor choice in selecting the loser, so they double down on stupid.
- Exactly what you describe here. The person getting cheated on will side with their cheating partner and both end up targeting you with their anger to deflect that their relationship is broken.
- you’re gonna have one hell of a story to tell at parties when you’re older. Don’t give up on finding fwb’s. Be safe, be kind, and lastly know and stick to your boundaries. You’re on the right track my friend.