The title probably makes me sound like a dick but please hear me out. I have a 6 year old daughter Penny with my ex Diane. Our relationship ended badly when Diane cheated on me but I’ve always respected her as the mother of my child, and am 100% involved in my daughters life. I met my girlfriend Lauren when Penny was about 1 and Lauren started becoming involved in her life about 6 months later after meeting Diane.
Diane and Lauren do not have a good relationship. Diane had harassed, attacked, and just been awful to Lauren for reasons I can not figure out.
Lauren has gone no contact with Diane but Penny adores Lauren and vice versa. I will be honest I was not great with boundaries in the beginning and would often allow Diane to hold Penny over my head to get money and basically control my life.
It caused a lot of problems between me and Lauren until I finally got a concrete court order which resulted in me having Penny the majority of the time.
Now Lauren is basically Penny’s second mom and does more for her than her own mother does, unfortunately. So this Mother’s Day I wanted to show her how much I appreciate her after everything she’s stuck around through. I paid for her to get a luxury facial massage, took her to a new nice restaurant she’s been wanting to try and bought her some nice gifts.
Penny spent Mother’s Day with Diane of course and I gave her a card from Penny and Lauren helped Penny make her a nice little painted jewellery box.
Diane used fake accounts to look at Lauren’s Instagram and saw everything we did and lost it saying she’s the real mother and it’s not fair she got celebrated since she’s not a real mom.
Her mother also called me yelling saying I’m an awful father. My sister told me it’s weird to celebrate someone on Mother’s Day who isn’t even a mother and it doesn’t make sense since we’re not married yet (because I wanted to figure out the legal custody stuff with Diane first). The rest of my family thinks I did a great thing but they hate Diane so yea