I (30F) have been working for so many years as a breadwinner. 5 years ago my mom died and my brother (25M) got depressed and lost the will to apply for work. I also got depressed but obviously, I have no one to lean on. My dad (61M) cannot work already. He is already physically very slow but will cook for you. My partner (41M) after on and off breakups (it is in my history but I gave him last chance now) has not gotten lucky in having work for 3 years. Now I currently lost my wonderful job due to the recession. My last day would be on August 6.
I have been burned out (my company is very kind) due to me being the sole breadwinner and most of the time doing chores as well. Everyone except my dad has not yet known that I will be out of work. I wanted to rest, heal, and move on. I lost the motivation to find work again. I have not saved a single cent and all my big travel goals have not yet been met.
My brother somehow understands me and said I can have a loan first to move on. But you know I have not heard, “I will apply for work for now”. Something like that. My partner said I can rest for a month but he is pleading that I work after so he can have his business working while I support him financially. He promised that he will return all this favor with money and time (it means I do not have to work if the business grows). He is starting it now but is very far from making it grow yet. That he is doing it for us and so the relationship will not be affected. He said if he can only land a successful job (he will not let me work) but so far none got him yet. I feel like Im wrong when turning this down. It is not like I am being supportive but I have been dragging myself to work already. I can’t even stay on the PC for long due to not having any motivation.
My dad might be shocked by the news. I don’t know but I am expecting he will understand.
I wanted to rest even for just 3 months. I am no longer motivated. My mental health is suffering I guess. I just want my parents to feed me.
If I tell them that I will rest whenever I want so that I can regain my motivation? And that they should just let me be.