I got a vasectomy without my wife knowing
I (45M) got a vasectomy about a year ago without telling my wife (30F). We’ve been married for 5 years and have 4 kids all under the age of 5. I’m absolutely exhausted and yet she still wants more kids.
I also have 3 kids from my first wife who are now 20, 18, and 15. I knew when I had entered the dating pool, I would be open to more kids, I just didn’t anticipate how overwhelming it would be. My wife was open and honest about wanting a big family, and I admitted that I was fine with that. Apparently we have very different definitions about what a big family is.
We’ve only been together for 6 years total and honestly we got married because she found out that she was pregnant with our first kid. I already knew that I had planned on marrying her so we went ahead and did a courthouse wedding. I absolutely adore my wife and kids and loving seeing her be an amazing mother, but I need a break.
We had a discussion after our 3rd on holding back from having kids for a while. I thought that she would be on the same page as me, but she loves pregnancy and motherhood. While some parts of it aren’t fun, she actually really enjoys being pregnant. She’s even told me that and said that she just wants to continue not using protection and that she’ll be the one to tell me when she’s done with having kids.
I booked the appointment as soon as I could after that and she got pregnant again in the weeks leading up to the appointment. I’m just so ready to be done with diapers and sleepiness nights. I really don’t think I could handle another baby