I want to abandon this account if I get weird DMs.
I was raised in an extremely religious family. No kissing before marriage religious. I have been kissed, but I’m 23 and still a virgin. So I’ve been considering making a Tinder and just… getting it over with
Growing up, I was taught that S was something to be saved for marriage and that it was a sacred act that should only be shared between two people who were committed to each other. But as I got older, I started to think differently about S and my own v-card. I began to feel like I was being held back by my family’s expectations and that I was missing out on something important.
When I was in poly, I started to explore and more and I realized that I wanted to lose my V. I started to date and to experiment with different partners, but I never felt comfortable going all the way. I was too scared of what my family would think and I didn’t want to disappoint them.
I started to feel really trapped, like I was stuck between two worlds and I couldn’t move forward.
I knew that this was going to be a difficult decision and that it was going to be scary, but I was determined to do it. I decided that I was going to take things slowly and that I was going to make sure I was comfortable with whoever I chose to be my partner.
I don’t care about a special first time, so why not? But I have concerns. The main one is I’m worried about meeting a creep and not knowing the warning signs. (I wouldn’t advertise it on my profile, but I’d tell a guy before making plans.)
The secondary one is I’m worried about being bad. Any advice? Is this entire plan stupid?