Boyfriend is urging me to see a gynocologist so he can know if we can have kids in the future.
Im 22F and hes 25M. My entire life I’ve had very irregular periods and some symptoms resembling PCOS or my hormones being off.
Throughout my life ive seen doctors for this but have never gotten a pap smear. Doctors have told me to wait till im older (when I was 14), then at 17 put me on birth control to manage symptoms. They told me they saw a small cyst on my ovary but it could still be nothing. I haven’t gone back for a further checkup just due to. money and honestly fear of doctors and the results.
I don’t want to know i cant have kids. Im a preschool teacher and love children. It would deeply hurt and id feel like i failed. I dont even know how we got on this topic but last night my boyfriend brought up he is upset because i wont go get checked and he doesn’t know if we can have kids and wants to plan. I feel like he is pressuring me when i have a crippling fear of doctors and not emotionally supporting me at all. He is basically saying he doesn’t know if he can stay with me if i dont go get checked out.
I told him we have only been living together for 1 year and aren’t engaged or anything. I dont want kids for another 3-5 ish years. I don’t know where all of this is coming from but hes getting so frustrated and keeps saying i could prevent it from getting worse so that one day we can have kids.
I dont think he understands all doctors have ever done is tell me in overweight or being dramatic about my pain levels.
I think he will leave me if I cant have children.