My crazy gold digger/SG citizenship chaser story: I began dating a girl in late August. Before we even began dating, I told her that I refuse to get married to anyone unless we date for at least 2 years.
We can begin talking about marriage after a year of dating, but the act of marriage cannot happen until at least 2 years. She rebutted with, “I want to get married in a year”. Me being the open-minded person I think I am, I did not think much of it then.
A week later she asked me, “if I leave the country to go study abroad for 6 months, will you stay loyal to me?”. I told her, “I have been single for a while and I am not really up to that. Not that I would cheat. It is just that I don’t want to commit to it.” Then she told me about her living situation and the reason WHY she wants to get married. “I live with my parents and I want to get married and move out.”
This part is very important later but suffice it to say she was lying about that. She had her own place, money, and agenda. Then she told me that she was ready to follow her husband anywhere in the world. Now, why would she say such a thing? Well, before we even started dating, she told me about her plan to immigrate abroad no matter what.
One day we were in my apartment and we were cuddling and chatting when her phone goes off. She picks it up and the caller ID says, Future Husband. Before we started dating, she told me that she had a foreign boyfriend that lived in Taiwan but they weren’t dating anymore. This was that boyfriend, which I later found out. So another lie.
After maybe a month of dating, I started to get a gut feeling that things weren’t right. So during one of our calls, I told her that even though I thought that she was physically and intellectually the type of girl I wanted, we couldn’t really pursue a relationship because of her future goals. She tried, in vain, to have us continue dating but I just didn’t feel right about it and after a week of trying to salvage it, it went nowhere.
A month of no contact later, I sent her a message apologizing for walking away the way I did and hoped that we could stay friends and when she figured out whether she was going abroad or not, maybe we could continue dating. She told me she was down with that plan and wanted us to hang out, go play pool, yadda, yadda. This went on for a week and then she stopped responding to my messages for a week.
Crazy foreigner story: When this girl eventually responded, it wasn’t her. It was some guy from Spain who identified himself as [Insert girl’s name]’s boyfriend. He then started to send me voice messages as well as text messages telling me to stay away from his girlfriend, that he was in Taiwan and if I don’t stop messaging his girlfriend, “we are going to have a problem” over and over again. It turns out that he was the “My Future Husband” guy, they had become a couple a single day after I called it off, which means that they had been dating for a while before then, and she had never told him about me.
And she had told me that they had broken up a long time ago.
The guy continued to threaten me to stay away from his girlfriend “and that guys that hurt the honor of other men in his country end up dead”. He kept telling me that he was going to come to Singapore to find me. He was 165cm, maybe 30-35 years old, and looked like this was his first girlfriend and was willing to kill to hold on to her.
Ever after finding out that her girlfriend was with another guy, had been emotionally cheating on him with me, lied to him about the things she wanted us to do, the guy, seeming desperate, did not end it with her. A month later (about 2-3 weeks ago), I looked the guy up on Facebook and his relationship status was set to “Engaged to [Insert girl’s name]”.
I am certain that he was making empty threats and was trying to look manly in front of his girlfriend/now fiance, but the constant threats he made, came off as a crazy desperate foreigner to me. The girl came off as equally desperate that was willing to do anything to get a Singapore citizenship, even if that meant getting engaged and married within only a few months. The crazy part? With exception to maybe 1 girl, all the girls I have dated here have come off as the same as the girl in question.