I regret marrying my wife, but more than that I regret having a baby with her.
Been married for 3 years and have a 1 years old (the most amazing thing in existence).
She hid her mental health issues from me until well after we got married and even her eating disorder which she engaged in right up until we got married. This means her appearance drastically changed.
Back before we began trying for a baby I said I need you to get therapy but she was good for about 2 weeks and that stupidly convinced me to try.
She treats her older brother like royalty and would defend what he can or cannot afford but would always complain if I mention not being able to afford anything. I am 2nd rate compared to her family.
I bought a place closer to my family after my father passed) and that gets used against me i.e I’m so lonely, you took me far from my family etc.
she’s a SAHM and I work 10hrs 5 days a week. I once mentioned how I’d like to be comforted when I get home from work and was met with “so how you feel is more important than how I feel? what if I had a bad day?”
She’s constantly picking at things she thinks my family do which never turn out to be the case and I’ve ended up in fights with my siblings trying to defend her.
i am considering divorce but doing this to my special little guy pains me. Her being his sole carer also worries me, she cannot control her emotions.
I want her to get therapy and THEN try couples counselling before being more inclined towards a divorce.
She makes me feel like I’m a controlling and mean person and it is all honestly driving me crazy – the thought of my son not being with my makes me sick the thought of him primarily being with her makes me scared.