I was in shock. My boyfriend had just told me that if I didn’t give him a bj…, he would find someone else to do it behind my back.
I was so stunned and hurt that I didn’t even know how to respond. I knew that this wasn’t the type of relationship I wanted, and yet here I was in this situation. I had to make a decision – do I stay in this relationship and succumb to his demands? Or do I leave and find someone else who respects me?
I had been with my boyfriend for almost a year, and while it had been a great year, I had never felt completely comfortable with him. He had always been possessive and jealous, and I had often felt like he was trying to control me. I knew that this wasn’t the kind of relationship I wanted to stay in, but I had been trying to make it work.
I can’t bring myself to do it.
I had never even considered giving him any until that moment. I had been in other relationships where the topic had come up, but I had always shut it down. I wasn’t ready for that kind of intimacy yet, and I had assumed that my boyfriend understood that. But here he was, making demands and threatening to find someone else.
I wanted to scream and yell at him, but I knew that wouldn’t solve anything. Instead, I took a deep breath and told him that I was leaving. I wanted to make it clear that I wasn’t going to put up with this kind of behaviour from him or anyone else.
After I left, I knew I had made the right decision. I had been so scared to end the relationship, but I knew that it was for the best.
I wanted to find someone who respected me and my boundaries, not someone who was going to pressure me into doing something I wasn’t comfortable with.