It’s going to be a long story that I need to get off from my chest and pardon me from all my grammar in case there are any grammar police in the comments section.
I have been with my gf for 4 years since 2019 and there were many ups and downs between us. But today she decided to break up with me because of everything that happened and also because of her parents. Some back story – she has depression and I have been by her side in early 2019 and decided to get together with her because I really care for her. And there was once she attempted by overdosing and I went with her to the hospital and stayed overnight with her. Her parents didn’t even came to visit her immediately and they only came the following morning with policeman and I was arrested and detained for 48 hours because her parents told the police that I was the cause of her to suicide.
It took me 1 year to get her parents to really understand me and I have to endure things like can only sit at the balcony because I am forbidden to go into their living room, I cant use their toilet and have to run to the nearest toilet outside to use before running back to her house balcony. Everything was ok but in 2020 when my gf shared her dreams over dinner table with her mum and elder sister, she got shot down by saying she becoming an accountant will never be rich as an interior designer and that almost made her want to attempt again but it took me a while to calm her down while maintaining my cool in front of her parents.
Side track her sister is an interior designer and she is always borrowing money from my gf which pisses me off because when my gf doesn’t have enough to lend her, the sister would tell her mum and she will get scolded badly for being useless. Her sister is also married to an Ang Moh banker and stays in a bungalow, have 3 dogs and a helper and 1 son and the irony is she always have to borrow money. Another irony is her sister could stay overnight with her then bf and not give a shit about her mum and her sister could easily get away with not paying her university school fees and not get scolded by her parents, but I have to made sure I was a good guy before my gf could stay over at my house.
I hate her sister because she keeps telling my gf to find Ang Moh or find sugar daddy so she can have money, saying i am useless and not earning as much as her husband. And her mum keeps telling my gf to find someone around her age like her classmates and all, i am only slightly older than my gf who have graduated and in the workforce. All this overwhelming thoughts went into her mind and depressive state which one day in 2022 she decided to take a break from our relationship and dated someone else but she was not happy because the guy abused her, forcing her to do things against her will. Her mum did not want to help her break up, so I stepped in and told off the guy and her mum, and this incident cause her mum and dad to have bad impression of me. We have to hide our relationship moving forward and it appears to be very taxing for her and just today she said it to me and said her parents will never be accepting us and growing older, she feel that she wants to have her parents validation and blessings as compared to 4 years ago when she just wanted to heck care them. I don’t get it, her parents don’t even give her allowance, don’t even pay for her medical bills when she see doctor and psychologists, don’t even give her money and ask her to keep buying things from Shopee or buying food home, don’t even care about her and only scold her for being useless when she can’t lend her sister money, to date she have already lend her sister 3k.
Even if she gets awards from school, the parents don’t even bat an eyelid. Yet today she says she don’t see a future in the relationship and wants to break up. I really don’t know what to do now, as much as I hate her parents and want to bring her out from that shit hole, suddenly she drop me a bomb saying that.