I have been together with my GF for 3 years. In October I bought an expensive ring and asked her to marry me. Things were going well until there were some twists and turns in our professional lives and we postponed the wedding. This all caused a lot of fights. Two days before Christmas she gave me the ring back and we broke up.
A week passed and we got back together, but we decided not to be engaged anymore. All through January, we were awkward with each other, we barely spoke and I felt like we wouldn’t last long. I decided to sell the ring, I didn’t see the need to keep it to remind me of something that didn’t work out and I could use the money to buy something useful.
In February things settled between us and we are getting back on track. On the 14th, I planned a romantic dinner and we exchanged gifts. The next day, She said she felt a little disappointed that she didn’t get her engagement ring back. I said that I had already sold the ring 3 weeks ago and that caused a big fight.
She says I’m a irresponsible BF for selling the ring without consulting her. I disagree because she gave me the ring back so it was mine and we weren’t getting married in the near future. I vented about it to a few friends, most of them thought I was too insensitive and should have told them that I planned to sell the ring.
Here are what netizens think:
- Could it be that she sees you selling the engagement ring as giving up on the entire relationship when you two had gotten back together?
- This is just a clear case of not having the same expectations of each other. You are right, it’s your ring, you can sell it. She is valid to feel like this should have been communicated. Ultimately it sounds like this relationship is really not going to work in the long run so it’s prob best for both of you to cut your losses now.
- you bought the ring and she gave it back to you it is your property to sell. Also this sounds like a relationship that shouldn’t move forward. Sounds like a lot of fights. Might be time to move on