Am i cheating
I’m a F. Got into a rs with someone I met on CMB on the 2nd date. Been going out for about 4dates now (it’s been a month since we matched), holding hands and hugging. Feeling a bit of a regret now for taking it too fast. He’s a very intelligent guy but I feel that he isn’t very interested in knowing more about me. Not sure if this is just his character or he’s really not interested. During our dates I’m always listening to him talk about his stuff and when I share about myself or my day, there’s little response or interest in wanting to know more. I feel like there’s a s-ual incompatibility too.
Recently been chatting with another guy on dating app and we are in the same line. We have met up once and have arranged to meet up again next week. Should I break it off with the first guy before going on more dates with the new guy? Am I cheating if I go on more dates with the new guy and not break it off with the first?
Here are what netizens think:
- Just end things if you feel that you’re not compatible with this current guy. If he’s not taking an interest in you, there’s no point continuing this situation too.
- Lady. When you get into a “relationship” with someone on the 2nd date, it’s usually anything but a genuine relationship. It’s more like a wham bam thank you ma’am. A meeting of raging hormones. And that first guy is probably discovering he isn’t all that into you after hearing you talk. It happens. If his attention wanders when you are telling him about yourself, it means he is losing interest. If you are now fixated on the second dude, then just tell the first dude you “don’t see things working out, maybe we can remain as friends”. Easy.
- Why waste time with the first when he’s all about himself only
- Break off first lah, what do you want? Backup spare tire? I swear most of the times people over complicate things, or it’s just plain selfish wanting options.
- Are you exclusively dating him or he’s not exclusive yet? If he’s not exclusive,I don’t see what’s wrong in meeting other people simultaneously. Have you made any promises to him? Or has he made any promises to you? No? Then yes you’re not cheating if you get to know someone else too. Plus.. it really baffles me when people say “Oh we are sexually incompatible but I’m still dating him”. Why? To disappoint yourself further? Don’t do that to yourself. You deserve to be with someone who can please you the way you want to be pleased. Why the hell spend even a second with someone you know is not enjoyable and solely interested in speaking bout himself? I’m surprised you didn’t walk away from the table. I’d be like ‘I need to excuse myself” and vanish through the back door and block all communication with him. Don’t second guess yourself. Deep down,you know the answer. Life is too short to spend it with someone who dosen’t fulfill you.