Boyfriend asked what I bring to the table
I(28F) and my boyfriend (31M) have a 2 years old relationship. Whenever there is a fight my boyfriend says the same things like I don’t have any single quality and i don’t bring anything to the table.
At first I used to get offended but now it’s been said so many times that I have started to believe him. Also I have never been able to answer that question and could never identify any significant quality.
Only qualities i could think of in the past were that am a great listener, I’m kind , honest and loyal and I go to the gym but non of them were significant to him.
I supported him through his alcohol addiction these 2 years but that means nothing to him. He keeps asking me the same question and now I have no answer to it .
Netizens’ comments
- So why’s he still with you if you bring nothing to the table? Seems like he’s just trying to belittle you to garner more control/make you feel like you need him.
- He’s trying to break down your sense of self worth so you’ll put up with any type of treatment from him. Not good news. Someone who loves you won’t ask you to justify your existence like this.
- This doesn’t sound like a good trajectory. Your partner should be uplifting and helping you see the best in yourself, not obscuring and devaluing what is good.
- “What do you bring to the table?” is not a question you ask somebody you love. This man does not love you.
- Ask yourself the same question about him. People that are insecure about themselves attack others.
- He’s saying that to lower your self esteem to the point where you think nothing good would come out of leaving. DONT listen to that.