I have a 27-year-old sister who started dating one of those “brutally honest” guys few months ago. He can be quite rude and make backhanded comments about me and the family sometimes which is bothersome but my sister says he’s not malicious but is just the brutally honest time and we should get used to it.
I visited my parent’s house to celebrate my sister’s birthday and my husband couldn’t come with me because he was busy, after the party, we all sat down for dinner and my sister’s boyfriend said it was weird that my husband and I don’t have kids despite being married for 6 years now, I was shocked that he brought this up but I gave a short answer stating that it’s because of infertility issues, he asked on which side and I didn’t wanna answer but my sister said it’s on my side.
I got uncomfortable as he looked at me for a second and said that maybe not having kids now is a good thing because he thought women over 30 might “produce” defective babies due to age.
I told him it was none of his business but he said that he was just giving his “honest opinion” and that’s all. I, in return, told him while maintaining eye contact: “trust me, if I wanted an A-hole’s opinion, I would’ve farted!”.
Literally, everyone at the table burst into laughter and my sister and her boyfriend were stunned. A few seconds later her boyfriend excused himself out and my sister followed then sent me a text after they left saying I was mean and disrespectful towards her boyfriend and insulted him maliciously just cause he stated his honest opinion, she also said I ruined her birthday by being petty and making her boyfriend the joke of the night in front of the family.
I didn’t respond but she demanded an apology via Whatsapp as soon as possible, my mom agreed that I shouldn’t have said what I said and should’ve just ignored him knowing how he is.
Am I wrong?
Here is what netizen thinks:
- Does the mother really think ignoring these dreadful comments was really the best thing to do?
- Exactly! This guy just takes advantage of everyone’s politeness and social manners. Maybe a solution is to reply unfiltered.
- I once heard someone say that people who say they are ‘brutally honest’ are often more concerned with the brutal part than the honest part