My MIL hates me, and thinks her son is still a child and needs to be babied and looked after by her and her only and because I’m his wife I obviously get in the way of her getting to do that.
Thinks he can do better than me, Nothing I do is good enough and so and so on .. She’s never liked me , probably never will and I accept that. Has never tried to get to know me. When hubby and I left during covid she never wished us well or congratulated us , pretty sure I didn’t even get a text that day.
Currently : We announced we are expecting a little girl in April and she was elated when my hubby told her, much to my surprise. hubby said she always wanted a girl (here we go) when he called to tell her she was on speaker and said confidently “you’ll be naming her after me right” hubby laughed and said “No probably not. We haven’t even talked about names we just found out the gender a few hours ago”. It was cringe but I assumed it was a joke and that was it.
The past few months she’s mentioned it over and over almost anytime we speak with her. She’d constantly text me to ask if we picked a name knowing we did.. Each time it’s mentioned hubby says Not happening . Now she’s pushed the chore off onto HER Husband because she got nowhere and now he asks while she sits quietly and annoyed. Again, hubby says nope . We finally got so annoyed by the badgering that DH spat out the name we did pick to shut everyone up and emphasize it was decided and set in stone. Things of course then shifted to , that name sucks , that name isn’t great and so on..
Now that she was put in her place she’s pissed and offended , I can tell the beehive of unrelated insecurities has been shaken and we’re in for hell in the coming months and preparing myself for it .. She’s been trying to find my sore spot to poke at but I don’t engage or react as hard as that can be. This weeks theme was “mini me” . All week long she’s mentioned how it’ll be so nice having a mini HER around and how grandma and grandpa think she will be a mini HER and look like her. She says this in a condescending tone with a smirk poking for a reaction. It’s super strange to me … again we more or less ignore it but it’s uncomfortable as hell.
She went from being excited for baby being a girl to now never asking once how me or the baby are doing the second we told her the name wasn’t going to hers. Not even sure she knows her due date. Hasn’t said a word regarding the baby ever unless it’s to remind us how the baby will somehow magically be her kindred spirit twin.
Also ,Not that it’s her responsibility either or that id EVER expect her to but she’s not throwing me a baby shower , I have a mom with a name as well and it’s ultimately our choice ! What on earth would make you think you being not even close enough to me to congratulate us on our wedding day , us never spending time together or knowing anything about eachother that out of every female role model in my life I’d choose your name ? For my first child ? Lmao like what