Guys, I want to get your opinion. Who do you think should pay for the proposal ring and is there any rule to say how much should a proposal ring cost?
My boyfriend and I were calculating our wedding finances that day and when I was typing out the excel sheet, he casually told me how much the proposal ring cost.
Seems like he wants me to share the cost of the proposal ring
I thought he was trying to get a response from me so I said wow diamond rings are expensive nowadays and then my boyfriend said yeah glad you know and told me to put it inside the excel.
I was confused so I asked him what he meant and he told me to put inside the excel as our wedding expenses, which is to be split between us.
Tell him no need ring but he scared lose face if never buy me a ring
I got a bit irritated so I asked him isn’t the proposal ring paid for by the guy and he asked me why am I complaining when I’m the one wearing the ring. He also never say anything.
I was really triggered by his words cos I’m not a person who wears jewellery often so I told him before that I didn’t need a ring but he still got it because he said that a diamond ring represents undying love so cannot use other things to replace.
Also if he doesnt propose with a ring people will gossip.
It’s not that I’m upset about having to pay for the ring. I can totally afford it but I thought that the proposal ring is something that the guy buys for the girl as a gesture of his love.
Now it feels more like he is getting it cos he has to and doesn’t want to pay full price.
Here are what netizens think
- I got a real diamond ring but Opted to buy $180 worth of diamond ring that doesn’t tarnish . It looks almost the same. Anyways it will scratch and you will not want to take it off all the time si might aswell I keep the real one.
- Between a couple whether you are getting married or not, there is always compromise. There will always be someone paying for more or giving more. Having a wedding is not cheap too.
And to the OP, normally conversations like yours would show that someone between the both of you is already feeling that they are already contributing more for the wedding and that there can be no more compromise.
Please remember that nothing is cheap nowadays so one of you has to compromise and budget properly.
There are those who decide that being practical is not by blowing a hole on a diamond ring that has no value at all and there are those who do not even have a wedding or even a wedding ring and just chose to sign the papers and spend the money elsewhere.
So decide properly on the compromise, because if it doesn’t get agreed upon, your wedding could turn sour.
Marriage is a lifetime commitment, best you remember that. Think, choose and decide properly.