My boss is making me feel guilty for not wanting to participate in weekend “team buildings”.
I started working in a new company a few months ago, and i really love my job.
The team i’m in is very “tight-knit”. They like to go out for drinks, they like to go on vacations together, they organize team buildings very often.
I was part of one team building 2 weeks ago, and now they are organizing a weekend (friday – sunday) trip away, however they don’t allow any families and spouses on these trips, which i understand.
Let me be clear – this isn’t a business trip – its a vacation.
Today I told my boss that i like going out with them (even tho most of the times i’m being forced to participate), but i’m not comfortable leaving my spouse for a whole weekend to go partying with my colleagues.
I told her that me and my fiance work opposite schedules – he works night shifts and basically the weekend is the only time i get to spend with him, and told her that I’m not comfortable going on the weekend, when i spend time with my colleagues 9 hours a day.
Basically she started acting rude, saying that i’m being irresponsible for my job, and that wasn’t a family trip – because of people like me we can’t be a good team. Also she said that its “unprofessional” to not be able to “live without my spouse” for a weekend.
Honestly i felt really hurt by those words because i love my job and put all effort to do it the best I can. But I also love my family and love to spend time them in my free..
I love my job but honestly that attitude is making me sick.