I’ve been in a relationship with my gf for over three years now. Ngl after we got together, she stopped bothering about her image and appearance and look nothing like how she was in the past (gained weight, don’t make makeup).
My gf also pays me very little attention these days and our lives are becoming more monotonous and routine.
I wanted to feel validated by the opposite gender so I started using dating apps. I have no intentions to cheat, I just wanna know my market value as a dude and whether I’m still in demand.
I wasn’t the most popular dude on dating apps but not too shabby either (few matches per day).
But lo and behold! The girls I get suggested on the dating apps are all dino bus. Either they are old, fat and ugly or young, ugly and dumb.
There’s the occasional chio one but as expected I don’t get a reply. The number of likes I get are crazy low compared to years ago when I was active on the app. This hugely damaged my confidence as a hot young male.
In a desperate attempt, I changed my gender preferences in the app to be male and started seeing male suggestions. Holy cow, I was getting over 10 likes a day from the dudes.
It felt good. I liked a few of them back and started chatting. Some of them are super funny and flirty. I really enjoyed chatting with them. They made me feel super wanted and validated. This is the validation I have been craving for, though I didn’t expect it to be coming from males.
Now I’m super confused. Am I bi because I’m enjoying attention from guys? Should I turn gay and break up with my gf so that I can be with these guys who want me so badly?
Here are what netizens think:
- Clearly you’re gay, since you hate women so much and you enjoy the attention from men and talking to men.
- You’re not special bro.I left my preferences on male to female by accident on tinder last time, went to take a shower, and came back with 100 new likes, all from guys.
- Only 10 likes a day? I get like 100 likes and I’m a fat, hairy man.