A woman shared how her mother-in-law was angry at her and her husband for being pregnant with a girl instead of a boy.
Here is the story
DH and I have been married for a couple years now. We live with MIL for reasons that are not likely to change. We got pregnant 2 years ago.
DH wanted a girl, I wanted a boy. MIL decided we were going to have a boy- to carry on the family name.
When the results came back girl, she was furious with us because we were happy and excited that it was a girl and alternated between not speaking to us and reading us the riot act for having a girl.
And for the next 6 months had only negative or mean things to say about the baby (i.e. calling her “your stupid daughter”)
My first trimester was difficult because I had severe fatigue and was still working a physically demanding job in the evenings.
But MIL just called me lazy and said I needed to attend an aerobics class regularly or the baby was going to die.
She harassed me over text and in person every day about it and told me I was killing my baby. She practically lost her mind when I stopped taking my prenatal vitamins. I could never remember to take them, so I stopped trying with my OB’s permission.
I got this harassment every day of my pregnancy until I was nearly 8 months and finally popped. When I finally started looking really pregnant, she suddenly became the proud, excited GMa and couldn’t say enough nice things about the baby.
I wasn’t buying it, haven’t gotten over the lines she’s crossed and I know she loves DD now, but I still haven’t forgotten or forgiven her for any of it.
NOTE: MIL’s behavior like this started as soon as we got married to the point that if I loved DH an ounce less than I do, I would have left in the first month.
Also, DH gets the brunt of her behavior and he would and does sometimes try to stick up for me except she’s like a force of nature (try to stop a hurricane with your bare hands) and he’s very nonconfrontational.