Uncomfortable with flirty colleague should I let my fiancee know?
I am quite passive in nature and this is something very new for me, I was newly posted to this site to manage a small team of 3 in a site office and one of my colleague has been making things quite awkward and difficult for me
2 of my staff are mostly out of office for site work and I am in the office with the other staff alone. This staff is probably 5 years my junior and she flirts with me quite a bit since I’ve started working in this site
She would come by my desk to ask questions and look at my screen – I am very uncomfortable with the physical contact. I have tried to move away but she would continue to press against making me feel uncomfortable. I may have given off the wrong vibes in the first week trying to be friendly since I was new and I find she is overstepping the friendliness – touching my shoulders and chest when we talk and I had to create distance to stop this nonsense
She would also constantly text me what time am I coming in, sending me irrelevant texts like her dinner etc and ask too many personal questions
I did mention that I am engaged and I have a picture of my fiancee and I on my desk – she completely ignores this and doesn’t seem to care. I have seen her trying to eavesdrop on my conversation with my fiancee twice now
I have kept things strictly professional but it feels very worrying to go to work daily now
I am also wondering if I should share this with my fiancee – we have a strong relationship but she is very possessive and gets jealous quite easily which leads to life becoming even harder at home
FWIW, I’m just a regular looking guy and I find it quite perplexing
I have told a couple of my colleagues from the main site about this and they asked me if I’m stupid to be complaining, they would cherish this – making me rethink of what I thought of their character
Kind of feelings stress to bring this up to HR, what should I do guys?