I just found out that my fiancée slept with my brother while we were on a break and I don’t know if I can forgive either of them.
My fiancée and I have been together for 7 years but took a break for a year when we were 22. We had a nasty argument and we ended up have a nasty break up. We stayed apart for a year and we dated other people, and grew as people within that year. We found each other again and fell back in love and have been together for 5 years. I proposed in December.
So recently I found this out from my younger brother. After our break up, she was so angry at me that literally a week after we separated she banged my older brother. I never found out, but she planned to tell me but I had deleted social media and blocked her on everything so she couldn’t t reach me.
I found out very recently as my older brother confided in my younger brother and my younger brother thought I should know before I get married to her. I confronted my fiancée about it and she admitted to it.
Now, I’m am upset about this, but I do not want to dump my fiancée. This was 5 years ago. We were both fresh out of college and were very different people than we are now in terms of maturity. She says she regrets doing that so much and I believe her.
Still I’m upset. I don’t know if I can forgive her for this. I don’t know if this is something I can ever forget. I also am way more angry at my brother than her. He knew we had a nasty break up. He knew she was trying to get back at me for dumping her. He knew this would hurt me, and he didn’t care. He even kept it secret after we met again.
I’m so mad at both of them. This may be some thing I hold on to for years. I don’t know how I could just erase this. Honestly I wish I hadn’t found out.