Today I proposed to my girlfriend. We have been together for over 5 years and her parents have been pressuring us to get married (yeah, yeah, some parents are like that). I am not into marriage at all, but I love my girlfriend and if it is important for her, it is important for me too. I was nervous about the whole thing to be honest, do I want to get married? Am I doing it for the right reasons? Don’t get me wrong, I love my girlfriend more than anything, but marriage is a big step in someone’s life.
I bought her a ring, and I decided I would wait until her birthday to pop the question. I wanted that moment to be strictly her and I, it was our moment, our next step in our relationship. Man I was shaking so much when I put a knee on the floor and asked her. She laughed at me and said ”what are you even doing dude?”. She said no, but not because she doesn’t love me, far from that.
She said no because she knew all along marriage was not something I was comfortable in. She said she did not need a ring on her finger to know she loves me and want to spend the rest of her life with me. She said that the only thing that mattered was her and me, not what our families think.
We’ve returned the ring and we used the money to spoil ourselves, like the perfect immature adults we are.
Man is it even possible to love someone so much?
I prove my love to my girlfriend every single day, and she’s a very tough cookie, if she was unhappy, she would be long gone. She is not the type to ”stay in a unhealthy relationship because she loves him”. No, fuck that (forgive my language) she’d dump my ass real fast and make fun of me with her girlfriends. Never cheated on her, never disrespected her, always tell her how beautiful she is, how perfect she is, every single day. The belief that men who think like me are not committed and are going to jump the fence at some point is very outdated.
Women are not inherently into marriage and men are not inherently against it. There are other ways to show your love and appreciation for a person than getting married. For the few rotten apples in the back, yes her birthday is today, yes she is working today, I proposed this morning, she works from 4pm to 10pm, more than enough time to return a ring and spoil ourselves/spend quality time together. This is something that never changed on Reddit I see, there’s always some Negative Nancy who just. can’t. be. happy. for. other. people.