Told my sister if she doesn’t go to the funeral due to her fear of dead people she will blow up all her relationships.
My sister and I are pretty close and we were friends with Kat. Kat recently passed away and her funeral is being held this weekend.
My sister Sammy, has a fear of the dead. She strongly believes in ghosts and even has trouble with any meat due to her beliefs.
I called her up and told her I can pick her up on Saturday. She informed me she will not be going. I asked why and she told me she can’t be around a ghost.
I asked if she was joking and told her she can just stay in the back but everyone is expecting her to go. We are close friends with the family.
I told her she needs to go or she will blow up all her relationships including me. She said that won’t happens and I told her that family will never forgive her and I don’t think I will either since we have known her for years.
She hung up and I got a call from my mom for making her cry and being a jerk for telling her what will happen if she doesn’t go.
Netizens’ comments
- Regardless of how ridiculous her fear is, it’s not your place to decide what she does and does not attend.
She doesn’t want to go so you threaten her relationship with you? You’re going to stop talking to your sister because she didn’t attend a friends funeral? Sounds like shes not losing much tbh.
She can pay her respects in a way she is comfortable, and doesn’t have to attend the funeral to appease you.
If people are willing to “blow up their relationship” over this, they weren’t people worth knowing anyways. - Funerals are supposed to bring comfort to those who were close to the deceased, not the other way around. Your sister has a phobia, a medical condition. Forcing her to go will only hurt her, someone who is already hurting after losing a friend. She’s not going to bring any comfort to the family either if she has a breakdown at the funeral.
A lot of people aren’t mentally able to attend funerals for their loved ones. It doesn’t mean they love them any less.
If you really want to support your sister, you could encourage her (kindly, and gently) to seek professional help with her phobia.