Boyfriend (30m) told me (26f) he doesn’t see a future because of rubber.
Boyfriend of 4 months told me that he doesn’t see a future with me because I told him I’m not ready to have unprotected.
When he said this, I was stunned into silence. I was so hurt that he was so ready to drop me because I’m trying to be safe.
He later apologized saying that he had a death in the family which is making him freak out and want a family of his own.
This conversation led to another argument where he said I need to commit to having a child with him within a year, which then led to him saying that “rubber” are too expensive and he’s never been in a committed relationship where the woman made him use them….
I’m still in school and he lives with his family so in my head, I would never even think of children unless we’ve at least lived together for awhile, have a strong foundation, and have the funds to support a kid.
I let him know this and he told me that I’m being immature and selfish. I’m a bit confused because he’s been so perfect these last few months and this is our first fight.
This isn’t a normal reaction to a death in the family right?
Edit: The more I read this post back to myself, the more I shake my head. I think I’m still a little shocked and I’ve romanticized this relationship too much but I already know that this is sooooo wrong.
Netizens’ comments
- Well people do react to deaths in different ways, but wanting to have a child within a year when he is complaining about not even being able to afford “rubber” is not a good look. Someone is being selfish and it is not you.
- Did he explain what was immature and selfish? He’s too poor to afford “rubber” or his own place to live but he wants kids? If he doesn’t see a future with you don’t waste your time.
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