Walao eh, I seriously cannot believe I am typing this out. My heart is actually paining right now. I just found out my 19-year-old daughter—someone I raised with everything I could give—is “together” with a man in his late 30s. And the worst part? The guy is married with a whole family at home.
I found out because I saw her Telegram notifications. This “uncle” is giving her a pathetic monthly allowance, and in return, he brings her out to high-end restaurants and bars almost every weekend. I thought she was just hanging out with school friends, but no, she’s out there being a “plus one” for some direct-selling looking guy who probably lies to his wife about “OT-ing” at the office.
When I confronted her, I expected her to be ashamed or at least cry. But no. She just looked at me and said, “Dad, it’s just a transactional thing, why you so kan cheong?”
Transactional? Since when did my daughter’s dignity become a transaction? She knows he has a wife. She knows he has kids. She doesn’t care. She treats it like it’s a normal part-time job, like working at Gong Cha or something. Is this what the youngsters these days think is “cool”? Just because she wants to carry a branded bag and eat Omakase every week, she’s willing to be a home-wrecker?
Honestly, how is this any different from those girls doing “OnlyCrap” or selling photos online? At least those people stay at home and don’t physically destroy another woman’s marriage. She is literally degrading herself for a few hundred bucks and some expensive sashimi, but she acts like she’s a “girlboss” for “hustling.”
I feel like a total failure as a father. We are not rich, but we are not poor. She has food on the table, a roof over her head, and her uni fees are covered. Why must she go and do this kind of “lobang”? It’s so cheap. If she wants money, go and find a real internship or do tuition.
I’m so disgusted and lost. The values of this generation are really upside down. Everything is about the “aesthetic” and the “lifestyle,” even if you have to sell your soul and your reputation for it. If our relatives or the neighbours find out, where do I put my face? More importantly, how can she live with herself knowing she’s a side-piece?
Does anyone else have kids like this? Is it the social media influence or did I just fail at parenting? I really feel like disowning her, but I also want to save her from this trash life before she realizes—too late—that once you lose your self-respect, no amount of “allowance” can buy it back.