A Singaporean girl recently took to Facebook to state that the secret to a long relation is to not have s*x until marriage. By doing so, it will prevent the sparks from fizzling out.
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I realised that the longest lasting relationships around me are couples who either never had sex until they got married, or only became sexually active after a long time together (e.g. 1-2 years later)
Since I’ve had three past r/s that ended when the sparks fizzled out, I thought about it and came up with a theory that might explain why.See, many couples break up after the honeymoon period is over, which is about 8 months to say, 2 years on average. They lose the rose-tinted glasses, the romantic spark is gone, and they start to find the other person boring.
Is it a coincidence that this time frame coincides with my 1st observation above?
Could it be that for most people who are sexually active early into the relationship, their relationship is held together by hormones, surface attraction and sexual gratification rather than true love for the other person’s character and habits? So once the sex dies down and you get used to their other person’s good looks, what’s left is the “boring aspect” of the relationship, when they start to get irritated by their partner’s habits. So they were never emotionally compatible to begin with, but the eyecandy and pleasure of sex held them together during the so-called honeymoon phase.
Conversely, for couples who can stay in love for a long duration without sex, it means that they are truly in love with what the other brings to the table aside from sex, they love their whole being without being blinded by how good things become during and after sex.
So the honeymoon period never really ends, because you already enjoy being with each other in the purest sense. As compared to a couple who is very “in love” at first because the sex is great.What do you guys think?