A local girl recently posted a story on how her boyfriend cheated on her because his ku ku bird was very “itchy” during their 6 year relationship. It was not the first time that he had been unfaithful and he did it during their earlier part of their relationship and she forgave him. But the apology was just the beginning of her dreadful nightmare.
Here is the full story.
How it all unfolded
Where do I begin? My (ex?)-boyfriend and I had just celebrated our 6th year anniversary when I received this DM:
Of course my heart sank. I was literally shaking.
We don’t usually post pictures together but we had just celebrated our anniversary so he posted a picture of us with the caption “Happy 6 years”, which made perfect sense why I would suddenly receive this DM. I had to ask if he had any evidence. He said that his friend is really scared to send me any screenshots because S is violent but she is willing to meet me to show me the “evidence”. I had to check it out of course, but I brought a stalker alarm with me hahaha. I guess I reaaaaaally wished that it wasn’t true and that this guy is just a pervert baiting me. Sadly, it was not the case.
I met them, and she told me that she has been in a rls with my bf since last year May when they matched on Tinder. Let’s call her J. I will protect her identity because she’s 9 years younger than him (which made her an easy target) while S is 27. J said that she knew everything about me because he complains about me all the time; hell – she even knew about a dog I was dog-sitting up till MY PLANT. She knew about all my friends (???), everything about my family and even where I lived. She could properly describe my bf’s room with all my pictures and all my things, my bf’s (dad’s) car, the places we always go to eat or where we recently went to because HE DRIVES HER THERE to proudly tell her that he’s bringing me there. (E.g he will drive her to sentosa to show her that we are gonna staycay there this weekend. Why?????)
At this point I was like wait. This is actually real. But as J told more things that happened, this is the part I realised that this is some sort of sick game to him. He is not a regular cheater. He doesn’t just have a double life like regular cheaters. This is not just for the sake of f*cking other girls. He does all these “playing” but tries SUPER hard to keep me around. Why don’t you just leave? It is way too much effort and money to spend on your “gf” you tell other girls that you don’t love and can’t stand.
Because of some history (that I will later feature) amongst many other things I’ve forgiven him for, he kinda needs to report to me with pictures and we share our location permanently just in case. For example:
Disclaimer: He offered to do all these. Of course if you are his friend, you might’ve heard otherwise or only gotten half the story. Or that I’m a crazy b*tch. But THIS is your friend. YOU decide if he is a good person.
Despite everything that happened, our relationship actually looks pretty f*cking solid in the eyes of everyone else. And that is why although I knew that the best thing to do is to walk away immediately because he doesn’t deserve another MINUTE of my life, I knew I couldn’t live with myself if I didn’t tell the full truth about this person. I’ll let you guys decide if he deserves to be exposed.
He says this pretty often to “assure” me but I’ll just quote the latest one that he sent me just a week back.
He claims “I want you to know that I do feel lousy for the things I’ve done in the past. And I want you to know that I am working on being a better person overall. Handling things, handling arguments, handling assurance. So whatever you feel, please let me know. Don’t worry that I’ll think you’re crazy because I already know that. And I also know that you’re crazy because of my actions in the past. I don’t want you to keep your thoughts and paranoia in your own head, cos you shouldn’t suffer alone. We are in it together”
Just as a reference to how our relationship was – we would often make little cards for each other. This featured one was when he was begging for forgiveness about something else. I thought it was really sweet and of course, I forgave him.
Sounds like quite a sincere guy right? Did I misunderstand him? Read on.