A man or rather a child posted a story that irks people to the core about how he thinks of love, he expects whatever he gives in to the girl he will receive back in the same amount. However, love not tangible.
Here is the story:
So my girlfriend and I are fighting over this simple thing. I used to be very bocap/lazy in terms of the dressing style and grooming in general which meant I got fewer dates. However, I saw a sharp increase in the number of dates I went after I put in the effort to manage my appearance.I got into a relationship with this girl.
I chose her because she is a kind and caring person. However, I did not like her dressing style compared to other girls I dated before. After a while, I started suggesting that she try wearing a but more shorter or revealing outfits to look a bit more sexy. I suggested that she wear regularly if possible and if not, at least a few days a week. She got angry and started saying it is her choice to wear whatever she wants. I do not disagree. I put in a lot of effort to look good so I felt that she could do something as well.
I also did sacrifice and do other things for her so I suggested that she could sacrifice a bit for me as well. I don’t usually ask her for things by the way. She just downright refused to do it, not even to wear sexy outfits once a week. I talked to her and found out that she is not comfotable showing so much skin. I told her that maybe we can take it in small steps, maybe wear slightly shorter and slowly increase the shortness over time.
Still she refused. Finally, I suggested that she wear sexy outfits when she is at my place or her place. She got furious at this point because I kept on trying so she refused to talk to me for a while.At this point, I got so pissed off. Guess what I did. I did not bring up about this outfit issue to her. I just went back to my bocap style of dressing, just a sligtly oversized t-shirt, shorts and a pair of slippers. I would wear this outfit no matter where we went, including those classy restaurants. She felt embarrassed at one of the place and asked me why I am wearing such as outfit.
I refused to answer her question and just talk about something else. I do not want to fight around this. By the way, the bocap style is the most comfotable form of dressing.Now, I know all the girls want to rage at me but wait, I did not do anything wrong here. In fact, it is fair. Throughout this process, I did not force her. I only made suggestions to her. Despite making sacrifices for her, she did not try to make any forms of adjustments for me. It felt unfair to me. By the way, I do most of the work in the relationship, like planning dinners or outings, buying gifts, accompanying her, waiting for her after school, etc.
Now, it is fair because like her, I don’t need to put in effort in my dressing to try to impress my romantic partner. It should go both ways. I should be able to wear whatever I want, similarly to the fact that she can wear whatever she wants.Some of you may say that I do not deserve her but I feel that it goes both ways. Despite her not making adjustments for me, I still found a way to make it fair for us. If she still decides to break up with me for this, then I can’t do anything. I have tried my best in this relationship.
Let me know what you guys think.