Ladies, I need advice on what to do when you really hate a certain group of people that your partner hangs out with.
For context, i came to know from a mutual friend that these 2 friends of my boyfriend’s have been bitching about me .
My boyfriend is aware of it as well. These 2 guys are obnoxious sexists who diss their girlfriends, their friends’ girlfriends and generally almost the entire female population, and even claimed that females only exist for the purpose of reproduction. I also found out that when my boyfriend meets up with them, they bombard him with bad points about me (some are true and some are made up stories) as if they are trying to destroy our relationship.
I’m sure i have not offended them in any way, maybe just a little hostile towards them due to their narcissistic characters. While i do not wish to be the petty girlfriend who controls who my boyfriend chats/hang out with, i find myself getting bothered that he actually chose to engage with that kind of friends. Y’know when you rant to a genuine friend they will empathize and offer solutions, but this kind of friends just add oil to fire and sprout some nonsense they do not have to take responsibility for.
I openly told my boyfriend that i do not like that those friends are not respecting me and our relationship, but he kind of brushes it off. I know that i can stand up for myself by confronting the friend but at this point i do not want to do it without his knowledge first.
We have plans to BTO soon but I’m not sure if this issue will become a big problem in the future. I’m not so confident that my boyfriend will continue to love me the same if he constantly hears negative false rumours about me. What if he chooses to believe those friends instead 🙁 Thoughts?