I F31 have been with my bf M27 for 6 years. 4 out of those 6 years, he’s had trouble with his car and refused to take the time to properly fix it or trade it in for something less problematic.
His excuse was “It’s not paid off yet, and my credit sucks so I can’t buy another one yet”. My mom, without my knowledge until recently, decided to pay his car off and help him open a credit card through our bank, getting rid of at least one of those excuses.
He has yet to pay her back, and it happened early this year.
Fast forward a few months, his transmission officially starts acting up, to which he says “I don’t feel safe driving it” and would only take it on the 10 min drive to work and back, leaving us to take my car everywhere else. I don’t mind, I bought a newer car last year and I figured it would be fine while he decided what to do about his.
Well, I recently got a job working from home, which means I won’t really need to drive my car around. I give him my permission to take my car to work while he yet again figures out a solution to his own car situation. We agreed that he would take the insurance off his car while it stayed in the lot since he wouldn’t be driving it anymore.
This month comes along, and I’m hit with my car payment and my insurance. I ask him a month out if he’s okay with giving me half the car payment since he’s driving my car M-F, and he agrees.
Well, the week it was due, there was a fight. He doesn’t think he owes me help with the car payment because it’s my car, and that we never agreed to that kind of transaction when I agreed to let him drive it in the first place. He says that it digs into his savings, and that I’m being unreasonable.