I (38M) have been married to my wife ‘Vanessa’ (38F) for 12 years, and together for 15.
Me and Vanessa both like wearing rings, since we got together up until now, its rare we don’t have some non wedding related ring on along with our wedding ring. Due to this, we decided that instead of the typical wedding band, we would get each other a customised ring fitting each other’s preferences. We didn’t see them until they were exchanged.
I’ll be honest, I’m not fond of the style of my wedding ring, it’s lovely, but not my style. I’m more into black rings without heavy amounts of gems, my ring is the opposite, rose gold and very flashy. I never complained, I do love it for the sentiment, just not the style. I’ve never told Vanessa this, as I think it’s a stupid thing to complain about, and I’ve worn it nearly every day for 12 years.
Recently I noticed that my ring doesn’t fit like it used to, so I decided that instead of getting it resized I would just wear it around my neck, and wear one of my more simple bands around my ring finger to show that im taken. Vanessa noticed, and didn’t say anything at first, but eventually asked “how long is it going to take for your ring to be resized”
I told her that I wasn’t planning on resizing it right now (might do in the future, depends) but im still wearing it around my neck, and that the one on my ring finger is just to show that im taken.
She got super pissed, asking if her ring wasn’t good enough for me, and that I was being unappreciative and rude in her opinion. It was a real big argument, but eventually calmed down, though she’s still pressing on it whenever she re-notices the ring.
I’ve asked my mother on her opinion (purely because she’s a married woman, im not a mommy’s boy), she says that she can see both points, but I should just concede to avoid another argument.
I don’t know, I want some extra opinions, woman will always find things to argue even after married for over a decade…